Some parents are great about making time to reconnect with each other while others go weeks and sometimes months without having a “date.” You know, what you used to do before your conversations consisted of diaper duty, to do lists and met milestones.
Setting aside time to reconnect may seem trivial or even conjure up feelings of guilt about being away from your baby, or anxiety about having nothing to talk to your mate about except for the day to day chores. This is all “normal” and very common.
It is easy to lose yourself (and your marriage) in the day to day routine. It is helpful to take time out of your week to decompress and recharge your battery. It allows you to look in the mirror and see a strong, sexy, accomplished person, rather than a tired, worn, resentful parent. This same concept stands true for taking time to reconnect with your mate, which will allow you to remember why you chose each other in the first place, and how there is more to your relationship than the chores assigned (or at times forgotten). If you feel guilty about taking time away from your little one, or that somehow needing this time for yourself or your partner must mean that you are a “bad” parent or must not love your baby enough to be around him/her 24/7, those are all common emotions, but not anything to feel guilty about. Continue Reading